3 Steps to Discovering

What’s Your Why in Life

Determining what our purpose is in life can be one of the hardest quests that we as humans

ever go on. I find these 3 simple steps useful to start exploring your feelings, thoughts and

what’s important to you which will help get you moving in a meaningful direction.

STEP 1 – UNDERSTAND THE PRINCIPLE OF CHOICE

“The greatest power we have is the power of choice. It is an actual fact, that if you have been

groping under unhappiness, you can choose to be joyous, instead. And, by effort, lift yourself

into joy. If you tend to be fearful, you can overcome that misery by choosing to have

courage. The whole trend and the quality of anyone’s life is determined by the choices

that are made”. Norman Vincent Peale

“Choosing” is the most important activity of your mind, because by making a choice, you are

proclaiming your desires to your subconscious mind. Once the subconscious mind gets to

know your desires, it is going to do anything to manifest them in your life. The choices you

make in your life become your goal. And, if you are determined in pursuing them, there is no

reason why you shouldn’t achieve them.

By contrast, indecision, not only creates frustration and anxiety, but can also confuse

the subconscious mind about what you want. It is important though, that the choices you

make are made by you, in alignment with your true desires, values  and natural abilities. A lot

of us let others make choices for us, or make our choices according to what we think we

‘should do’, even if that means that we go against our wishes and sometimes our values.

What is right for someone else may not be right for you, and the way to know this is by

absolutely listening to what your heart and soul says.

So, to begin with, make a list of things which interest you; things which you have always

enjoyed, which make you feel better, which inspire you to surge ahead, no matter what

obstacles you face. Do you like doing something creative, or something artistic? Do you

enjoy nature? Do you like the sea? Do you enjoy helping others? Do you get pleasure out of

making a difference in other people’s life?

Whatever it is that interests you, write it down and answer these questions:

• What thing do you love to do?

• What is it that you love in this thing and why?

• How could you do this for money, and make a living out of it?

STEP 2 – CREATE YOUR UNDERLYING PRINCIPLE

The next step is to examine the list you just made and find out if there is any recurring

theme. Maybe, it’s making a contribution that keeps coming up, or there’s a creative and arts

theme? Perhaps it’s all about family or wanting to change the world and be an activist

making a difference. Whatever it is, try to identify the central theme of the things you love

to do, and try to put it in a short and precise statement. This will be your ‘Mission

Statement’. It may even be a quote by a famous person, or a philosophy that has influenced

you. Of course, this statement could evolve over time, but its likely its heart and soul will

remain the same. Now, write down your Mission Statement.

STEP 3 – ALIGN YOUR LIFE WITH YOUR UNDERLYING PRINCIPLE 

The final step is to think about how you can begin to align your daily life with your

underlying purpose and build in time to make some changes and do some of the activities

that you’re passionate about, that interest you and bring you joy and satisfaction.  By

making these little changes in your lifestyle, you will start to be able to begin living this

principle out each and every day. It might take a few days, but by becoming aware and

intentional of this underlying principle of your life, you will certainly start to feel the

difference in your enthusiasm for life as a whole. If you realize that you love being out in

nature, get out more or take up a hobby to get you out more – much like I did with

paddleboarding recently!  If you discover that you enjoy helping those in need, start to look

for opportunities to volunteer in your community. There is nothing better than focusing on

being of service to others to help you feel happier and better about yourself. On the other

hand, you might even want to change your job, or start a new business that is more in line

with your mission. Now that would be exciting, wouldn’t it? She says speaking from

experience🙌

Remember:

“You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it

courageously.” – Steve Maraboli

By following along with the steps outlined above, you will be on your way to finding and

living out your purpose and knowing from moment to moment why you are here.

It’s never too late to find your why, purpose and raison d’etre!💖

Inspirational Messages of Hope, Belief, Faith and Love from

Courageous Women 🧡

It can’t have escaped your notice that it was International Women’s Day on Wednesday last week and I was very lucky to get a complimentary invitation to attend the Aspire International Woman’s Day “It’s a M.A.D World” Global Event.

Aspire is a female leadership development organisation led by Dr. Sam Collins and she was one of the first of many inspirational women who inspired and empowered me to start my solopreneur journey to do my bit to make a difference to women’s lives for the better.

I was looking forward to the webinar and it didn’t disappoint. It was a real privilege to have listened to these inspirational stories from courageous, soul-led, passion-filled, purpose-driven women, who have followed their soul callings against all odds and in the face of adversity and danger.

So, I’m “paying it forward” and hope you’ll take some time to watch this webinar too.

WATCH THIS for truly inspiring messages of self-belief, courage, passion, kindness and soul-led callings for the greater good of humanity❤️

You also need to watch it if you ever feel self-doubt, lack of self-belief, anxiety and fear holding you back from your soul-led aspirations and true purpose in life.

It truly fanned the flames deep in my soul and put my personal worries, concerns and challenges firmly where they need to be – fading into insignificance!!!

Here are the main inspirational messages that struck a chord with me:

💥BELIEVING IN YOURSELF IS KEY TO YOUR SUCCESS💥

It’s more important than anything else and you have to belief you deserve anything and everything you want in your life and that it is available to you.

JUST TAKE MESSY ACTION!🎯

Don’t be the sort of woman who has to do things perfectly or not at all. Perfection stifles growth, creativity and opportunity. Take messy action and keep moving forward.

THERE IS POWER IN PURPOSE🚀

Choose to focus on what makes you feel fulfilled, satisfied and gives you purpose in your life. There is meaning and power in purpose that can help you overcome any challenges you face.

DON’T LET ANYONE ELSE CONTROL YOUR LIFE🙌

It’s your life and only YOU is responsible for what you do with it and how you live it!

I hope you take as much inspiration as I did from watching the webinar.

But if you feel that self-doubt, anxiety, fear and a lack of self-belief is holding you back and keeping you stuck from having the success you desire in your work and life, then please do get in touch. The doors are open for enrolment this week to my new online group programme!

FREE YOUR MIND🧠is a transformational mindset and emotional freedom programme for professional women in middle management and leadership positions. It combines mindset coaching, hypnotherapy, subconscious reprogramming and meridian psychotherapy to help you overcome self-doubt, anxiety, limiting beliefs and energetic blocks holding you back from achieving your aspirations, goals and dreams in life.

This programme will help you blast through the beliefs that keep you stuck and help you believe that anything is possible and you can achieve it!

Book a call to have a chat if you’re interested in finding out more.

🧡Happy International Women’s Day🧡

It’s a good day to remind ourselves to #BreakTheBias we all still face on the road towards equity in our careers and lives, especially the unconscious bias we hold against ourselves.

It’s not our fault – it’s human nature. We are wired to focus more on the negative than the positive, something called “negativity bias” which is our brain’s primitive survival mechanism to keep us alive.

How does this show up for us?

Dr. Rick Hansen explains it well in his book “Hardwiring Happiness”:

“the default setting of the brain is to overestimate threats, underestimate opportunities, and underestimate resources both for coping with threats and for fulfilling opportunities.”

AKA:
FEAR, ANXIETY, SELF-DOUBT, LACK OF SELF-BELIEF AND FAITH IN YOUR SKILLS & STRENGTHS = IMPOSTER SYNDROME = MISSED OPPORTUNITIES = UNFULFILLED POTENTIAL! 😞

There is growing evidence that our perceptions of ourselves and our abilities have a massive impact on whether we achieve our aspirations and succeed in our careers.

💥BELIEVING IN YOURSELF IS KEY TO YOUR SUCCESS💥

Here’s my 3 top tips to make a start and #BreakTheBias you have unconsciously against yourself:

✨When a negative thought or doubt creeps in, notice it and realise it’s your primitive brain protecting you. Get it out of your head, write it down, reframe and counter it with at least 3 more supportive thoughts to outweigh the negative.⚖️

✨Make a list of everything that you’re proud of yourself for doing or accomplishing in your life, whether it’s overcoming a challenge or adversity or something you did really well. Really tune into that sense and feeling of pride. Then get into the habit of making this a daily practice by noting down your daily “wins” big or small.🏆

✨List at least 5 people who you have helped to remind you of the value you have to offer and always keep a treasure trove of any positive feedback, compliments and testimonials you receive on a daily basis.🧡 Read them whenever you need an extra boost of confidence and self-belief. 💥

If you don’t already do this, start today and #BreakTheBias you hold unconsciously against yourself first.

✨I hope you have an inspirational day! ✨

I’m looking forward to attending the Aspire International Women’s day “It’s a M.A.D World” Global Event.🙌

Dr. Sam Collins was one of the first of many inspirational women who inspired me to start my solopreneur journey to do my bit to make a difference to women’s lives for the better! 💖

#IWD2022 #BreakTheBias #itstartswithyou #believeinyourself #believeachievesucceed #internationalwomensday2022 #professionalwomen

The February Funk

You know what I mean, the good intentions, optimism and motivation to do things differently at the start of a brand new year may be slowly fading and those old, familiar feelings of self-doubt, dejection, disenchantment, malaise and “I can’t do this” creep back in.🤦‍♀️

I’m always inspired by my clients and this has been the topic of conversation this week.

We’ve all experienced it and it’s normal because our minds love the familiar, well trodden neural pathways we’ve grown up with. Its job is to help us survive and it will always want to keep us away from fear and pain, safe and secure in our familiar comfort zone. Even if that safe, secure comfort zone holds us back from what we really want.

In fact, it can take anywhere between 66 -70 days to rewire and change the way you think and the habits and behaviours associated with your thinking, according to neuroscientists.

The good news is that you have the ability to control this process so it keeps going in a positive direction and you proactively manage your mind!🧠

How to get unstuck

All it takes is a little bit of awareness💡, reflection 🤔, some writing✍️ and a “possibilities” mindset🙌🏻 as well as the usual suspects like good sleep, exercise, nutrition and meditation.

Next time you get in a funk try asking yourself these “unlocking” questions to challenge your beliefs, open up possibilities and shift you into a more positive energy.

Unlocking questions

Then take that one small action.

E-MOTION = energy in motion and as soon as you start to take some action, you’re in motion and shifting your energy!

You have the Power!

Your thoughts create your feelings,your feelings create your actions and your actions create your reality and your beliefs can either limit your potential or enhance it.

You don’t have to stay stuck in the funk, once you start to tune in and question and challenge your beliefs, often that can be enough to start clearing them.

As Kyle Gray so eloquently puts it:

“Your mind is an energetic space……..

MIND + ENERGY  = MATTER

So what you focus on in your mind, you support creating!”

You always have a choice and the power to create your reality and your future.

If you’d like to find out more about my new FREE YOUR MIND programmes which give you the mindset, subconscious, psychological and emotional freedom techniques and tools to help you take back control of your mind and life, let’s connect and have a chat.

 Women’s Equality Day

26th August

It’s an opportunity to remember that every girl and woman on the planet
deserves the right to feel safe and loved, be educated, have a home,
vocation and income and be empowered to achieve what they want in
their life!

Countless reviews and research show that we are still significantly under-represented in the workplace at every level with less of us in
management and leadership positions, not to mention the pay disparity
and the lack of business start-up funding we get compared to our male
counterparts.

What’s even more disheartening is the growing body of evidence
suggesting that the pandemic has exacerbated the gender gap when it
comes to women’s mental and economic health and the increasing
domestic violence they’re subject to.

We’ve lost more jobs, our financial security and have taken on more childcare and homeschooling responsibilities so it’s not surprising we’re struggling with more anxiety and other mental health issues.

For those of us dedicated to empowering women, this is a major setback.

The research also tells us that we hold ourselves back in a big way too
because of our own fears and self-doubts.

Perfectionism, fear of failure, fear of judgement, chronic comparisonitis and not measuring up to perceived expectations all keep us stuck!

Lack of confidence and Imposter Syndrome affects up to 75% of women and is a major barrier to professional growth and career progression.

Not only that, research undertaken by Natwest suggests would be
female entrepreneurs are holding themselves back because they lack
faith in their own abilities and feel they don’t deserve to succeed.

Add that to our intense discomfort and social conditioning about
promoting ourselves, the “visibility factor” – which is now so crucial for
promotion and advancement, then there is still so much work to be done.

“Ending all discrimination against women and girls is not only a
basic human right, it’s crucial for a sustainable future; it’s proven
that empowering women and girls helps economic growth and
development”

UNDP

I will do everything I can to empower the women I work with to believe in themsleves, realise their potential and have unstoppable confidence in themselves so that they can overcome the continuing disadvantages and gender bias we still face as women!

I hope this resonates with you. If it does, why not hop across onto my
social media platforms and give my women’s day equality post a like,
comment, share or save to join me too, would appreciate your support!

#togetherwearestronger😘

If ever you feel you might need some help in overcoming self-doubt, anxiety, limiting beliefs, visibility fears and Imposter syndrome, let’s connect and have a chat.