3 Steps to Discovering

What’s Your Why in Life

Determining what our purpose is in life can be one of the hardest quests that we as humans

ever go on. I find these 3 simple steps useful to start exploring your feelings, thoughts and

what’s important to you which will help get you moving in a meaningful direction.



“The greatest power we have is the power of choice. It is an actual fact, that if you have been

groping under unhappiness, you can choose to be joyous, instead. And, by effort, lift yourself

into joy. If you tend to be fearful, you can overcome that misery by choosing to have

courage. The whole trend and the quality of anyone’s life is determined by the choices

that are made”. Norman Vincent Peale


“Choosing” is the most important activity of your mind, because by making a choice, you are

proclaiming your desires to your subconscious mind. Once the subconscious mind gets to

know your desires, it is going to do anything to manifest them in your life. The choices you

make in your life become your goal. And, if you are determined in pursuing them, there is no

reason why you shouldn’t achieve them.


By contrast, indecision, not only creates frustration and anxiety, but can also confuse

the subconscious mind about what you want. It is important though, that the choices you

make are made by you, in alignment with your true desires, values  and natural abilities. A lot

of us let others make choices for us, or make our choices according to what we think we

‘should do’, even if that means that we go against our wishes and sometimes our values.

What is right for someone else may not be right for you, and the way to know this is by

absolutely listening to what your heart and soul says.


So, to begin with, make a list of things which interest you; things which you have always

enjoyed, which make you feel better, which inspire you to surge ahead, no matter what

obstacles you face. Do you like doing something creative, or something artistic? Do you

enjoy nature? Do you like the sea? Do you enjoy helping others? Do you get pleasure out of

making a difference in other people’s life?


Whatever it is that interests you, write it down and answer these questions:


  • What thing do you love to do?


  • What is it that you love in this thing and why?


  • How could you do this for money, and make a living out of it?



The next step is to examine the list you just made and find out if there is any recurring

theme. Maybe, it’s making a contribution that keeps coming up, or there’s a creative and arts

theme? Perhaps it’s all about family or wanting to change the world and be an activist

making a difference. Whatever it is, try to identify the central theme of the things you love

to do, and try to put it in a short and precise statement. This will be your ‘Mission

Statement’. It may even be a quote by a famous person, or a philosophy that has influenced

you. Of course, this statement could evolve over time, but its likely its heart and soul will

remain the same. Now, write down your Mission Statement.



The final step is to think about how you can begin to align your daily life with your

underlying purpose and build in time to make some changes and do some of the activities

that you’re passionate about, that interest you and bring you joy and satisfaction.  By

making these little changes in your lifestyle, you will start to be able to begin living this

principle out each and every day. It might take a few days, but by becoming aware and

intentional of this underlying principle of your life, you will certainly start to feel the

difference in your enthusiasm for life as a whole. If you realize that you love being out in

nature, get out more or take up a hobby to get you out more – much like I did with

paddleboarding recently!  If you discover that you enjoy helping those in need, start to look

for opportunities to volunteer in your community. There is nothing better than focusing on

being of service to others to help you feel happier and better about yourself. On the other

hand, you might even want to change your job, or start a new business that is more in line

with your mission. Now that would be exciting, wouldn’t it? She says speaking from




“You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it

courageously.” – Steve Maraboli


By following along with the steps outlined above, you will be on your way to finding and

living out your purpose and knowing from moment to moment why you are here.


It’s never too late to find your why, purpose and raison d’etre!💖